The Truth About Therapy
The majority of our clients, young and old, come to us feeling anxious, uncertain and even a little (or a lot) uncomfortable about what they’re getting into when joining therapy.
We get it! Coming to sit (not lay down) on a couch and talk (not read inkblots) to an approachable person (generally without a beard or half glasses and an Austrian accent) is not easy! As you can tell, we have heard all of the stereotypes of movie generated ideas about what it’s like to go to therapy. So, in our quest to take the mystery out of coming to therapy, let’s dispel some myths:
Therapy isn't a quick fix.
Unlike the movies, real-life therapy is more about a series of small breakthroughs rather than that “Aha Moment” (Thanks, Oprah). Sure, there are moments of “I never thought of it that way”, or “wow, I can’t believe how much better I feel”, but lasting change takes time and effort beyond the therapist's office.
Therapy isn't about fixing what's broken.
First of all, YOU’RE NOT BROKEN! You're not a vase to be glued back together or a car to be repaired. You’re a person who has lived a life filled with experiences, relationships, and memories, some of which have caused you pain and struggles. Therapy will give you a place to talk about your trauma and will then focus on acceptance of what is, uncovering strengths and learning coping skills.
You don’t have to rent a backhoe to dig into your past.
Therapy isn't about dissecting childhood traumas or obsessing over Freudian theories. Today’s therapists learn evidence-based and practical techniques that will help you focus on tangible solutions rather than delving into subconscious realms from your past. Sure, there are therapists who will take that deep dive with you. If that's for you, go for it, but most therapists focus on helping you find relief from your pain, creating insight and teaching you tools to use long after the sessions end.
Your sessions should feel safe and comfortable.
Finding a therapist whom you connect with is key. Therapy sessions don't involve lying on a couch while pouring out your secrets. The image of an aloof therapist silently nodding is for the movies. Therapy today is interactive and collaborative, with therapists actively talking and listening and providing insights tailored to your needs. Therapy is a partnership, not a one-sided consultation. If you find a therapist whom you trust, can open up to, laugh and cry with, then you’ve got someone in your corner who will hold your hand on the roller coaster, but also push you to be accountable along the way.
You can interview your therapist.
The gender, age, and culture of your therapist doesn't determine the quality of your sessions. Regardless of who your therapist is, a trained, experienced therapist will prioritize your well-being without judgment or bias. However, if you want your therapist to have specific traits, personal experiences, identities, etc., just ask! Your therapist will tell you a bit about themselves, their background and areas of expertise in order to help you make the choice that is right for you.
Therapy isn’t forever.
For most folks, therapy isn't a lifelong commitment. While some may benefit from long-term therapy, others may find resolution in short-term interventions. The goal of your therapist isn't to foster dependency. Your therapist’s ultimate goal is to move you toward empowerment and eventual independence.
Yes, therapy isn't easy. It requires vulnerability and a willingness to confront truths (which can be REALLY uncomfortable). Progress may be slow but the rewards are many. Understanding what to expect in therapy is the first step to making the call to find YOUR therapist. So, let go of the myths, roll up your sleeves, and take the brave step to call a therapist. Our practice offers complimentary 15 minute consultations to help you assess fit, ask questions of your potential therapist and hopefully book your first session. Take the chance! Make the call! No inkblots or couches involved! We’ve got you!