Slide into September: Setting Up For Back to School Success
So here we are at the end of summer holidays. How you feel about this will vary as to who you are. Even though the end of August signals the end of excursions and flexibility, many parents may be ready to get the household back into routine. For kids, the end of this month can bring up some big feelings: anxiety, anger, fear and excitement to name a few.
Each year, we see how stress during this period can affect everyone in the family. The good news is: it is completely normal, this stress is usually temporary, and it can be reduced by talking about it and sharing ideas as to how everyone in the family can slide into September with minimal tears.
1. Make Routines a Family Affair
A sudden switch in sleep schedules can be tough for everyone. Start adjusting bedtimes and wake-up times now. Gradually moving towards the school schedule will help everyone ease in and minimize those dreaded first-week meltdowns. This can also mean having a talk about phone usage and how it impacts sleep patterns. Finding alternate ways to wind down at the end of the day and wind up at the beginning without devices is a life skill that many of us are lacking. Brainstorming alternate activities such as reading, listening to music or a podcast, colouring or journaling are all great ways to calm busy minds and prepare for sleep or a busy day. Get the kids talking about these routines now. If they have input into what they will look like, they are more likely to follow through. And remember, this isn’t easy, but it gets easier every day.
2. Start Talking!
Talk to your kids about what they can expect this year. Encourage them to share any worries they might have AND what they are excited about. Open communication helps kids feel supported and allows you to address any issues before they build up. The Feelings Wheel is a helpful tool to help learn the language of feelings along with other tools we included in our back to school tool kit. When we teach kids and teens that it is safe to talk about feelings, they are more likely to be able to label them when they are on their own, and articulate them to you, their teachers or friends.
3. Have Some Fun
The transition back to school can be overwhelming for everyone. Schedule family time to help you relax and bond. This can be as simple as having a living room dance party after dinner, walking to the park, encouraging pet snuggles or planning a “end of the first week” pizza party on Friday night. Having something to look forward to every day, however small, is a great way to get through the tough times and connect as a family.
By taking these proactive steps, you'll be setting your family up for a smooth and successful start to the school year. Be patient. Adjusting to anything new takes time. Know you’re not alone. Reach out to talk if you want support and reassurance.